Structure, Not Rigidity
“Life is a balance between holding on and letting go.” — Rumi
For many, summertime brings travel. The invitation of longer days, the ease of warmer weather (less layers equals far less packing), and the natural, evolutionary pull to explore.
So, if last week was about intentionally adding challenges to our routines to build resilience, this week we embrace exploring new places without abandoning those routines.
For me, that balancing act of maintaining my routines while diving into the unknown hinges on a simple distinction: if your routine is your what and how, then your structure is your why.
In a wave-my-wand, ideal, distraction-free morning my usual routine begins with diaphragmatic breathing, often Wim Hof style, followed by meditation, a few opening stretches, HIIT, deeper stretching, Foundation Training and a device-free walk to catch the morning sun and reset my circadian rhythm. Energized and focused, I then enjoy my biggest meal of the day: a predictable menu of salad, fermented foods, high protein, and my morning concoction of coffee, supplements, and powders - while diving into my first 90-minute deep-work time-block.
On my best days, the remainder of the day has similarly comforting and scripted rhythm right up to my nightly protocol for winding down, catching deliciously restorative sleep and starting again the next morning.
That’s my daily routine. The structure underneath that is something all together different: a desire for a long, healthy life that creates enough energy, presence, and clarity to serve my clients, show up my family, do meaningful work, and set a string of amazing tomorrows for contributing my best to the world.
When I’m not traveling, and life shows up predictably, I could tell you almost to the minute what every day looks like.
But those conditions are blue moons, epic item drops, shooting stars, few and far between.
Weather happens. Power outages happen. Clients have emergencies. Life tends to have other plans. And then there are those wonderfully unpredictable hormonal shifts where a pretty flower, a cute dog, or a simple act of kindness brings on a torrent of tears (oh, estrogen you unpredictable mistress you).
If I insisted on following my routine with rigid precision, the whole thing would eventually fall apart.
But instead, when I stay committed to my structure, my why, I can let the routine adapt without losing the habit. Borrowing from my Taoist upbringing: structure is like bamboo, which bends with the wind, while rigid routines are old oak branches that will snap.
Intentional travel then becomes, in the words of last week, the weights we put on to test and strengthen that flexibility and see where we need to build more structure by defining the reason for our routines and less perfectionist rigidity demanding a specific routine.
Okie dokie… but how much flexibility is too much? At what point do you lose the routine, and how little do you need to maintain to keep some resemblance while catching trains, navigating the hurry up and wait of airports, reservation mishaps, lost luggage and (my apparent, annual-nemesis) a flat tire?
A few thoughts.
Start by designing your ideal day.
Then identify your non-negotiables.
For me, it’s movement and getting outside early. That device-free morning walk, especially with the sunrise, changes the trajectory of my entire day.
Next, create different versions of your routine.
Your home routine doesn’t need to be your travel routine.
Your workday routine won’t look like your weekend routine.
Your “I’ve got fifteen minutes” routine shouldn’t resemble your “I’ve got all morning” routine.
And finally, leave yourself some grace.
As Brian Johnson of Heroic likes to say, “It’s OK to suck. It’s not OK to skip.”
To which I give an emphatic, yes!
In fact, I’m writing this while preparing for an overnight train to Chicago. It’s been decades since I’ve traveled overnight by rail, and while I’ll do my best to sleep in a cozy little cabin, I suspect the clacking of the tracks, a couple time-zone changes, and a two-in-the-morning line for the shared restroom may have other plans.
That’s okay.
This trip isn’t about executing a perfect routine.
It’s about feeding my spirit through adventure.
When I travel, I don’t expect to complete every workout, every stretch, every meditation, or every carefully timed meal.
But I do keep the habit alive.
Most days I do 101 burpees.
On a travel day?
Maybe I do one.
One burpee won’t make me fitter.
But it reinforces the identity of someone who shows up.
Maybe my meditation lasts one minute instead of eleven.
Maybe I simply breathe quietly while lying awake in bed.
Maybe my walk is through a train station instead of my neighborhood.
My diet simplifies to bright lines around what not to eat instead of eating all the ideal foods when I have the luxury of my preferred organic, fresh market.
Small actions keep the thread from breaking.
When you get home, it’s much easier to return to a habit that’s been gently carried along than one you’ve completely let go.
So this summer, travel.
Explore.
Say yes to the detours.
Cross a bright-line or two to nourish the soul and feed experience.
Just don’t confuse flexibility with abandoning the things that help you become who you want to be.
Hold tightly to your structure. Your why.
And let your routines breathe and bend enough to travel with you.
Besides, the goal isn’t to build a life so carefully structured that nothing ever changes. That’s like watching the same episode or reading the same book - predictable, safe, and devoid of growth. The goal is to build a life with a meaningful structure that allows you to enjoy change and to grow.
— Ariel
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